My Life in Zion

The life and views of a Latter-day Saint in the 21st Century…

Mormon Apostle Linda Booth Recommends Gay Marriage

Approximately 2,000 people gather in the Auditorium of the Community of Christ in Independence, Missouri for meetings and worship.

Approximately 2,000 people gather in the Auditorium of the Community of Christ in Independence, Missouri for meetings and worship last week during the faith’s annual World Conference. – Photo from the Kansas City Star

Each spring the Community of Christ, formerly known as the Reorganized Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, invites members and elected church delegates from throughout the world to their headquarters in Independence, Missouri for their annual World Conference. Held in the church’s spacious Auditorium (located next door to their iconic temple which to me looks like a giant ice cream cone), the conference held last week over a six day period attracted about 2,000 people, including about 1,500 church delegates. Considered a time of spiritual rejuvenation, the conference is translated into multiple languages, and in the past few years has been recorded and made available to view online later by followers of the faith.

World Conferences are made up of delegates elected to represent the church’s Mission Centers (roughly equivalent to a Catholic diocese or LDS Stake), meeting together to discuss and vote on the business of the church. Three years ago prior to World Conference, various Mission Centers throughout the church had passed resolutions calling on the church to embrace allowing gay members to be ordained to the priesthood (without any stipulations) and to end discrimination in marriage on the basis of sexual orientation. These resolutions then came before the sessions of the World Conference and were considered according to parliamentary procedures. Unlike General Conference, the semiannual meetings held by the Utah based Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, these meetings are conducted according Robert’s Rules, with motions, seconding, discussion, questions of privilege, calling the question, and the such. Historically, in the World Conference of 2010, the first business that came before the conference was whether or not to approve a new revelation brought to the church by President Stephen M. Veazey, the church’s leader and prophet. The approval of the World Conference would mean that the revelation (initially referred to as “prophetic counsel”) would be added to the Community of Christ’s Doctrine and Covenants. Like the resolutions referred to the conference by the Mission Centers, the prophetic counsel addressed the issues facing LGBT members of the church. The result of the procedural voting three years ago ended with the church leaders accepting the revelation “as the mind and will of the Lord”, and it was canonized as scripture as Doctrine and Covenants Sections 164 (the most historic change in church history since Section 156 approved in 1984 which allowed women to be ordained to the priesthood). But the steps made three years ago did not officially sanction gay marriages. That happened just a few days ago.

The Missouri Mormons of the Community of Christ are not to be confused with their doctrinally different cousins in Utah though. While this month’s General Conference of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in Salt Lake City expounded on traditional values and marriage between a man and a woman, last week’s World Conference of the Community of Christ solidified and expounded just how glaringly the differences in practice and doctrine have become in the past 150 years.

Apostle Linda Booth reads the recommendation of the nearly 1,500 delegates to those gathered in Independence, Missouri last week for the annual World Conference of the Community of Christ.

Apostle Linda Booth reads the recommendation of the nearly 1,500 delegates to those gathered in Independence, Missouri last week for the annual World Conference of the Community of Christ.

The specific recommendations of the conference to the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve Apostles (the two highest governing bodies of the church) last week were as follows:

The 2013 USA National Conference recommends the sacrament of marriage be extended, where legal in the USA, to persons of the same sex/gender. Thus the 2013 USA National Conference recommends a change to the current policy for the USA on the sacrament of marriage; and

The 2013 USA National Conference recommends that a church-recognized way for two persons of the same sex/gender to publicly express their covenant to each other be made available in places in the USA where marriage is not legal. Thus, the 2013 USA National Conference recommends a change to the current policy for the USA regarding same-sex/gender covenant commitment services where marriage is not legal; and

The 2013 USA National Conference recommends allowing a priesthood call to be processed according to established procedures regardless of sexual orientation, including a person in a monogamous, committed, same-sex/gender relationship (e.g., legal marriage, civil partnership, covenant relationship) in the USA. Thus, the 2013 USA National Conference recommends a change to the current policy on ordination for the USA.

Read by the church’s newly elected president of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, Apostle Linda Booth, and sustained with a majority vote by the church delegates present, the message was loud and clear: Gay marriage is okay.

Since gay marriage is only authorized in a small number of states in the United States (currently 9 with Rhode Island preparing to be the 10th), and since marriage is a state contract, the Community of Christ appears to be preparing official commitment ceremonies for those couples that reside in states without gay marriage. Also, the Community of Christ will acknowledge monogamous committed relationships as on par with marriage, in matters of priesthood calls, no matter whether they are labeled as legal marriage, civil partnership, or a covenant relationship. In other words, the legal difference between states will not impact how the Community of Christ approaches these relationships.

The Community of Christ in recent years has struggled not just to grow but to maintain their fledgling membership. With approximately 250,000 church members wordwide, the church just last year sold land to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in a deal, that according to numerous sources, helped replenish nearly empty church coffers. Meanwhile, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints continues to be among the fastest growing faiths in the United States and has over 14 million members wordwide.

For many members of the Community of Christ last week’s motions and resolutions may be accepted as “the will of the Lord”, and to many in the world the change will likewise be seen as a good and timely action. However, there are also those who are left wondering, “Just how far will a church stray from their original doctrine just to appear popular?”

While some groups of faith may change their beliefs with those of society, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints continues to emphatically declare “that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children” (See The Family: A Proclamation to the World). The Lord’s commandment to love everyone includes those of the LGBT community, and recently the church came out with an official website, MormonsAndGays.org, which adopts a more conciliatory tone toward gay men and women than many Latter-day Saints have heard in the past. Official Church doctrine has not changed, but with the realization that their are many among the faithful who struggle with same sex attractions, there is an outreach to love and rescue them like never before.

Only time will tell what may become of the Community of Christ with their watershed announcement on gay marriage, but for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints nothing has changed, and few expect that it will.

The local NBC affiliate in Kansas City, Missouri lead off their newscast on 21 April 2013 with the Community of Christ's announcement to allow same sex marriage.

The local NBC affiliate in Kansas City, Missouri lead off their newscast on 21 April 2013 with the Community of Christ’s announcement to allow same sex marriages and commitment ceremonies.

This Is My Life

A Tweet from earlier this evening.

A Tweet from earlier this evening.

On Tuesday of this week I approached my office manager and my company’s owner asking what it would take to get off a few minutes early today. We only work one Saturday a month for four hours. It’s mandatory. And missing it is not optional. I’m pretty sure you have to sell your kidney on the black market to get out of it. But I realized if I were going to have any chance of making it to the temple for our regional YSA baptismal trip today, I would have to leave work early.

“Soooo….,” I started slowly as I approached my bosses during a break the other day. I drug out the word for so long they both turned around in their desk chairs and looked at me cautiously.

“What would I have to do to get off about twenty minutes early on Saturday?”

Their faces were sullen and I felt like a kid who had asked to stay out late past curfew.

“What for?” my office manager asked with a stern look on her face.

“It’s for a church thing,” I said. I could have lied and made some extravagant excuse, but lying for Jesus? Yeah, not my style.

She kept the stern look on her face and turned to the owner of our small company. They exchanged an unspoken converstaion. Then she quickly smiled and said, “Sure. I figured it was for a church thing.”

My kidneys were safe after all.

And I was reminded again of how nice the Lord has been to give me a job that fits my ever increasingly busy life.

It was King Benjamin who shared these iconic words:

“I tell you these things that ye may learn wisdom; that ye may learn that when ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God.”

- Mosiah 2:17

I love those words and have taken them as a personal mantra for my life.

The temple was a great experience. Somehow we ended up with so many Melchizedek Priesthood holders that I ended up being the funny guy out, and I actually ended up getting baptized and doing confirmations instead of serving somewhere else. I haven’t been “dunked” in the temple since June 12, 2003…not that I’m keeping track or anything…So it was a nice experience. At least for me. The poor skinny guy who was doing the actual baptizing I felt bad for. As I stepped into the font, all 235 pounds of me, I smiled at him and said, “I’ll make sure to bend my knees as much as possible.”

I only heard him strain to get me back up once out of the water. What a rockstar.

A nice lunch with fellow YSA followed in the neighboring chapel, and as I was walking back to my car I read the following email subject line on my phone:

WML Conference Call Tomorrow

“Grrrrreeeat,” I said sarcastically to myself before even opening the email and sitting down in my car. I knew that meant the fellow unit mission leaders in my stake and I would be getting trained by our stake president, which is an awesome thing, but I also knew it would probably conflict with something else. With being a branch mission leader and  a YSA representative my hat is always full of things to do.

I clicked the email and saw that it did conflict,  and I quickly reshuffled my sabbath schedule in my mind.

My sabbaths start off my weeks like it’s a mad dash to celestial glory. Right out of the gate I’m running, literally (and often late) to a series of meetings, classes, visits, teaching appointments, blessings, etc. before coming home long enough to grab a bite to eat (sometimes) and make my way towards Birmingham for our stake’s YSA Family Home Evening. If someone were to clock my speed “coming out of the gate” for this figurative race to celestial glory I would definitely be towards the front of the pack. Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays follow a similar pattern to Sunday, only instead of sitting in uncomfortable chairs in church meetings I’m sitting in my uncomfortable desk chair at work. On Wednesdays our office closes early (thank Heavens!) and I do get to do my weekly laundry. By Thursdays when I get home and realize I don’t have somewhere to be, I often get a text or phone call asking me to be somewhere else. And by Friday, when I should be going on a date and trying to get married, in the words of a famous Disney character, “I’m too pooped to poop.” By the end of the week, if it were literally a race and if celestial glory were achieved by crossing a white Finish Line, I would be lucky to crawl to the finish with my bloodied stubs of leg dragging behind me.

Too graphic?…Yeah, well, that’s how I feel sometimes.

This is my life. I love it. And I would have it no other way.

But sometimes, on nights like tonight when I’m doing my laundry (because the elders needed to visit with me on Wednesday during “laundry time”), I wish I just had a little extra time to find that special someone and fall in love so that she could join this hectic life of service with me.

That would be awesome. And that’s really the only qualification I have for the future Mrs. Way:

That she wants to serve the Lord.

And that she understands I want to also. Everything else will fall into place after that. I’m rather simplistic in my priorities. And I know that she’s out there somewhere…

But right now, I have laundry to fold.

So in the meantime, I’ll just keep running (late) to my YSA meetings (and every other meeting) and hope that she finds me attractive when we do meet, even if there are big black circles under my eyes.

Stan

I Want to Be a Tambourine Man

I am a generally happy person. Performance reviews with multiple companies have always indicated that I’m a joy to be around (not to toot my own horn), and one performance review from my last job even said “infectiously joyous”.

I have no secret.

Other than that I wake up each day choosing to be happy.

It always helps to have an example though, right? So who is my example for happiness?

The tambourine player in this video.

I doubt you’ll ever see a happier person in the world just enjoying the simple thing he’s been asked to do.

I want to be a tambourine man like this guy every day for the rest of my life.

And I just realized how hard it would be to be “tooting my own horn here”. I could never do that…I’m a tambourine man after all.

#cuetherimshot

 

Joy in the Temple

As is usual, it’s far later than I had planned on getting to bed this evening, but it has been totally worth it.

Once again General Conference is upon us. I’ve blogged before about how much I love Conference, how it’s like my own personal Christmas, and my favorite weekends of the year. But this Conference seems especially exciting. I’m not sure why, but I’m just a tad more stoked than usual. And, as usual, as has been my tradition for the past four years, I took the day off before Conference just so that I could feel extra ready and prepared to hear the word of the Lord this weekend.

Earlier today (or yesterday really, it’s almost 12;30AM) I got to spend the afternoon with our full time missionaries, Elder Miklich and Elder Coleman. They’re two  fine young men out serving the Lord. Then I rushed from my time with them to get ready to attend the temple this evening with the rest of my branch.

I was blessed to take a man from my branch who is in his 80′s. This man, who I am also blessed to work with as a branch missionary, is a pure delight to be around. He was recently ordained an elder, and just a couple of weeks ago went through the temple for the first time himself. I cannot explain how honored I am to be in this man’s presence and to enjoy the insights that he has into life.

As we sat down in our temple session, one of the fullest I’ve ever seen in the Birmingham Alabama Temple (extra folding chairs and everything) we enjoyed the silence of a packed room as we prepared to be fed spiritually. I looked around in the room and felt my heart literally leap in joy at seeing a wonderful handful of people who I love so dearly, and then came in Sister Holly.

Now, Sister Holly would probably not want me blogging about her on the internet. A self-appointed second mother to me, Sister Holly is an older Sister in my branch who is pretty much the greatest thing since sliced bread. Frankly, I’d rather have her in my life over sliced bread any day. But I love this woman, and the world (or at least the folks who follow my blog) deserve to know just how great this woman is.

In any case, the endowment room was filled to capacity with just a couple of seats (and folding chairs) remaining empty. I was already blessed to be sitting next to my dear friend who just received his own endowments, and then in walked Sister Holly. Radiating in her white dress, with her silver and white hair, and carrying her cane (President Hinckley Style), she slowly came into the room with a smile on her face and took a seat with those of us who were already seated. And I felt a tear run down my cheek.

I felt such pure joy to see a group of people that I love so dearly gathered together in such a holy place. And I thought to myself, “This is what the Celestial Kingdom will be like.”

Before the actual temple ceremony starts there are some words of introduction which I have always found insightful, and as I heard them again tonight in both of the sessions that I sat through they took on added meaning. The words are these:

“Brothers and Sisters, we hope you find joy in serving in the House of the Lord this day.”

Joy.

The scripture came to mind, “Adam fell that men might be; and men are, that they might have joy.” (2 Nephi 2:25). In short, Adam falling and the entire Plan of Salvation was simply put into play so that you and I might have joy.

And tonight I felt that as I sat in the temple.

And I also felt it as my friend and I ate a late night dinner at the Cracker Barrel down the street from the temple. It’s hard not to find joy in a the Country Boy’s Loaded Breakfast (two pork chops?! you bet it has two!).

And I’m sure that feeling of joy will abide all weekend.

In just a few short hours you and I will be listening to a prophet’s voice. How absolutely amazing is that? To me, it is something that is remarkable beyond words.

I hope that as this Conference Weekend goes forth for all of us that we might feel some joy, and find the revelation we need as we are taught from on high to not just bring greater amounts of joy into our own personal lives, but to share that joy and the pure joy of the restored gospel with those around us each and every day.

Eternal joy will be like that feeling I had in the temple tonight as I saw Sister Holly walk in. Only it will last forever, and there will be so many more people that we love there in our presence with us.

Waste Not Want Not

Last night I got only about four hours of sleep. This has been a common occurrence lately in my life due to various reasons. So today when I got home after work and after attending a funeral, I felt that a deserved a good nap. I wasn’t overly tired, but decided I needed the rest so as to “not get behind” on my sleep. I took a four hour nap and woke up feeling more tired than before, and like I had wasted away my day.

“There are so many productive things I could have been doing,” I thought to myself as I stumbled to find a bottle of water to wet my dry mouth when I woke up. And then I categorically went through the list of things to do, people I need to call, and visits I should schedule with our full-time missionaries. After a couple of moments of inventorying my time I thought, “Maybe I’m being too hard on myself. Everyone deserves a nap now and then.” But my mind went back to our beloved former stake president who was released just a couple of months ago. In our final priesthood leadership training meeting with him, and then again in the Saturday evening session of his final stake conference with us, he admonished us to “serve through the tiredness”. He then shared multiple stories of being tired beyond physical explanation, but being guided by the Holy Spirit to help others.

As I pondered those words I said a silent prayer to be a stronger person physically to be able to accomplish all that is set before me each day.

A few moments ago as I sat down in my chair to study my scriptures I was cross referencing and searching for something I am currently working on when the Lord mercifully brought these words to my view:

“Love not sleep, lest thou come to poverty; open thine eyes,and thou shalt be satisfied with bread.”

- Proverbs 20:19

The Lord, in His loving kindness and gentle way, essentially said to me, “Stan, I’ve got a lot for you to do buddy, and you’re not going to accomplish it with your eyes shut.”

It was a reminder to me of just how intimately aware the Lord is of our daily lives, our actions, and even our simple silent prayers.

I needn’t waste my time on things that don’t matter, because obviously the Lord has some “bread” for me if I’ll just open my eyes and keep serving.

So here’s to skipping a nap the next time you’re feeling a little sleepy, there’s a lot you could be doing to bless other people’s lives.

Stan

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